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thinking how difficult it is to walk the narrow path of leadership...
who can define how thin the line is drawn between (1) manipulative and (2) demanding?
case study here:
this leader (Mr "On")'s orginal intention is to select a few of his members to be trained..
The selected few started attending his meeting, and as helpers, were soon customed to his high expectations and demands.
a leader will always seek to push their members beyond their comfort zone, so that they can expand and enlarge their capacities... that i agreed...
BUT, when that leader start to create a culture where the helpers and members:
a) dare NOT to voice out their problems and fear and worries,
b) dare NOT do anything until the leader say so,
c) dare NOT to voice their unsolved problems to another leader becoz of the stigma of overriding that leader,
Has that leader crossed the line?
Is that leader the only "voice" his members can listen to?
what about their own voice?
God's?
Holy Spirit?
fellow friends?
the last time I checked, leaders are appointed (by God and the leaders) over the lives of their helpers and members to guide, encourage and teach them to be more like Christ.. but it MUST ALWAYS be done out of love.. (2 Cor 12)
"I cannot be helper, because Mr "On" say so"
- what did God say so?
"I cannot lead, because there are (n) helpers in the Q"
- God is not a respecter of man, nor Q number..
What attract God is your faith, your passion
"I can not tell another leader of my struggles coz Mr "On" will be very angry and will ask me to step down from all "duties" if any leader tried to speak to him"
- wow.. and you want to follow such a manipulative, insecure leader?
"I will change ministries to solve this heartache"
- did God ask you to change? if not.. voice it out LOUD!
a leader lead only when the members are willing to follow.
willing to be taught, willing to be challenged, willing to be disciplined...
its not easy, and i used to think that the members will understand..
but the fact is... members don't understand, esp when we, as leaders tried to point out their faults.
writing this blog caused me to reflect..
while i am pointing out Mr "On''s faults, am i as guilty as him?
were the members under my field of influence a better lot since i am with them?
or are they choking?
living in fear and self doubts?
are they living God's purpose for themselves, knowing that i am supporting them all the way, or are they trying their best not to volunteer for the things of God because they are worried what will happened if they fail to meet my expectations...
if you have been choking, living in self doubts.. i am sorry...
not matter what happened, i hope our friendship can stand the fire..
At the end of the day, i will still love to meet you for a cup o green tea, eating my fav Ben & Jerry..
heehee
